What can you do to stop comparing yourself to others?
One thing that can really stand in the way of your personal growth is being stuck in a comparison rabbit hole. Making comparisons does not only waste your time but can also be detrimental to your mental health.
Social Media has made it extremely difficult for people to avoid this negative habit. Pictures and videos of people always looking fabulous and doing epic things with their lives can make you feel like you are lagging behind in life and are not good enough.
Comparison is not completely bad in itself. Seeing other people’s success can be very motivating and you can learn a lot from them and refine your own life endeavours.
However, if you find that comparison begins to negatively your self-esteem and self-worth, you need to take a step back.
How can you stop comparing yourself to others?
These few points below will help you get rid of this habit and appreciate your own life.
Most times, we tend to compare ourselves without realizing we’re doing it.
We might spend time admiring other people on social media. It could be someone’s picture perfect lifestyle that unconsciously starts to make you feel unhappy about yourself.
So the solution is to become conscious and watch what you are allowing to influence your life. Know that fixating on what you do not have in your life will only leave you feeling drained.
Rather appreciate what you have, work hard and strive for more within your circumstances.
Also keep in mind that when it comes to social media, “Not all that glitters is gold”.
Embrace being Imperfect
There is a common misconception in today’s society that everything has to be “perfect” to be happy. Without realizing it, we may begin to expect too much of ourselves and judging ourselves when we fall short.
No one is perfect and that is OK . We need to embrace our imperfections and flaws and strive to be the best version of ourselves.
Being better than we were yesterday is a sure way to make progress in life. We don’t need to compare our lives to anybody else’s.
After all, each one of us has their own values and beliefs. Focus on these and live them out daily.
Free yourself by embracing the fact that you are perfectly imperfect.
A sure way to stop comparing yourself to others is to focus on what you have and not on what you don’t have. This is what is referred to as practicing gratitude.
Gratitude always forces us to recognize the good things we already have in our world.
An article on reachout.com listed the many benefits of gratitude and among them is that it is an instant mood booster, it makes you enjoy life more and it makes it is easier to cope with tough times.
Oprah said, “Be thankful for what you have, you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.
So, take some time to show appreciation for everything you have. Keep a gratitude journal and add to it everyday.
Appreciate the simplest of things such as:
- A roof over your head
- Food on the table
- Your health
- The kindness you receive from others
- Fresh air
- Plenty of drinking water
So, whenever you find yourself in a negative headspace, take a time out and identify 3 things you can be grateful for. Gratitude automatically shifts your energy to a more positive place.
Focus on your strengths.
Sometimes, you may find yourself feeling bad about your life when you look at others because you might be comparing your weaknesses to their strengths.
Instead of looking at your weaknesses, ask yourself what your strengths are and celebrate them.
Take time to observe and understand what you are really good at and leverage that to improve your life instead of being in a constant comparison cycle.
Focus on Your Journey.
Don’t focus on how you rank in comparison to others. Life is not a competition, it’s a journey.
You have no idea what it’s like to be someone else, all you know is your experience of someone else based on what they choose to show you.
We are all on our own different journeys. Your journey has nothing to do with how well other people are doing, or what they have.
It has everything to do with what you want to do, and where you want to go. That’s all you need to focus on.
If you always want what others have, you will never have enough.
Comparing what you have with what others own will always lead to discontentment. There will always be people who “appear” to be better off than you and seemingly living the perfect life.
Another way to stop comparing yourself to others is to focus on being helpful instead.
When you begin helping others, sharing your talents, time and money, you will find that you start to have an appreciation for what you own, who you are and what you have to offer.
Once you realize you’re doing these comparisons, give yourself a pause. Don’t berate yourself or feel bad — just acknowledge the thought, and gently change focus to something positive.
Turn your comparison habit into inspiration instead. Let it be an eye opener and introduce you to possibilities of what you can be, do and have in life.